As a life coach, I am blessed at the number of opportunities I am given to help people change the way they think. It is exciting to be able to work with clients around the globe, helping them to shift their limiting ideas of themselves, their capabilities, how they see others, how they perceive their capabilities and how they perceive obstacles.
One of the mantras I live by is this, “for every problem, there is a solution”. Now, that may not mean that you get the solution you want, but it may be the solution that your soul needs to grow. I hear these statements all the time from clients - “I can’t” or “it’s not possible”, or “there is no way”. My response is usually this, “Make a Way”. The word “impossible”, for me, doesn’t exist – and neither should it for you.
Think about it - we have so much power as humans. We came from limitless energy. We choose to manifest into a “finite” perspective and took the form of a human to experience this reality. If we come from limitlessness and the energy that has created infinity, why would we choose to believe that we don’t have the power to make a way where we see no way? It is all a matter of perspective really. Here’s how you create a mindset that is solution-based and way-making.
- When you see a problem, look at it. What I mean by this is – do not try to avoid studying what you perceive as a problem. The issue that many people face is that they try to ignore what keeps coming up for them. When you ignore what keeps surfacing, it doesn’t go away, it persists, until it is unavoidable. So whether it’s how you deal with money, how you handle setbacks, relationships, body image, your right to happiness or achieving success, we all have challenges to overcome. How you handle the problem is what can transform your outcome – from one of just surviving to one of learning, growth and transformation. I like to face my problems head on. I study them, I observe them, I want to know where they came from, why they exist, and what to do with them. I want to learn from them, so that I can be and do better.
- When you see a problem look around it. I also look for blind spots. We often work from a place of what we know, or what we don’t know. What we often miss is what we don’t know we don’t know, which is how we have blind spots – because we don’t even know they exist. Are there blind spots that you’re not seeing? Are there solutions that may be there that you are just “blind” to, because you’re so fixed on this mountain of a problem being real? What other paths to your solution, dream, manifestation or peace of mind could there be? Also, consider the environment of your problem – how might you be creating an environment that allows it to grow? How do you “weed” your life – emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally, so that the environment is healthy and the way is clear.
- When you see a problem look through it. Make the way. Once I’ve studied an issue and have a good idea of what I’m working it, where it came from, and am ready to dis-create, allow, accept, release, change or transform the outcome, I begin to envision what life will be like on the other side. Sometimes, I just have to create a way where there is no way. This is one of the most powerful ways to manifesting what you want. Think about it. Pick one “obstacle” that stands between you and your dreams. Imagine that it didn’t exist. How does that feel? Then believe that it doesn’t exist. It’s not real. With the resolution as your focus, you can then positively and with energy put your attention on getting where you are going by eliminating any thing or any thought that is in your path. Using this tool – making a way by imagining the problem doesn’t exists, has allowed me to make a way because my energy changed. I began to see alternate solutions, or to realize that there were people and resources in my life that could support the clearing of the way. It doesn’t always have to be me – it can be my energy.
- When you see a problem, act on it. So often, when a problem is in the way, we balk and stop. Don’t ever do that. The fastest way to staying stuck is to not do anything. When you start to take action by moving forward, engaging with people who have high energy and who are like-minded, opening up your mind, changing your environment, breaking down the steps to your dreams, then acting on you’re the steps one by one, what you’re doing is literally hacking the weeds down to create the way by doing something.
Basically, it comes down to this: if you’re unhappy with the way you’re living, change it – make the way you want. Clear the path. Visualize it and knock the shit out of your path. Only you control the outcome of your life. Do the damned thing – make a way.